My Mom recently had knee surgery. She was nervous about it, understandably so as she is 85 years old. My 2+ decades of experience as a physical therapist gave her some comfort, but it was my skills as a life coach that made the biggest impact. My new(er) career has allowed me to hone the skill of asking great questions – challenging questions – that evoke deep insight and open possibilities and avenues for healing. It has made me understand the…
July 2011, Dallas Texas. I’m walking aimlessly around the exhibit hall at the Ewomen Conference in tears, feeling confused and dejected…like a complete failure. I had been working with a mentor since February that year, part of a high level business coaching program, in an effort to get my coaching business off the ground. I had never invested in myself on that level before. I had never had a business coach before. It had been 5 months and…
I had an interesting conversation with one of my clients the other day. I asked her if she had decided whether or not she was going to come to my Reconnection and Renewal Retreat in the Cayman Islands in October. She said “I’ve decided not to”. I said “Ok. Do you mind sharing with me why not? (I was curious as when I had originally started planning it she had been excited by the idea). She went on to explain…
“Procrastination is the biggest thief of time” I don’t know who said that (other than my Mother who said it to me … a lot!) 🙂 For many years I was plagued by procrastination and that saying would ring in my head like a loud (and annoying) church bell when you’re trying to sleep in on a sunday morning! It was a real problem for me, holding me back from achieving my goals and creating discomfort with myself. It was fodder…
Last week I had a lot of opportunities to ‘practice what I preach’. In the past I would have said something like “wow! I had such a sh**ty week!” (This is what we coaches call a reframe) 🙂 I’ll give you a couple of examples: I was buying something in Miami airport and my credit card was declined. I know that had to be a mistake, so I said “impossible! Run it again”. (It was declined again) 🙂 I felt…
Part of living beyond struggle and limitation is that you begin to have an awareness of opportunities everywhere and receive them. The dictionary defines an opportunity as: 1- an appropriate or favorable time or occasion 2- a situation or occasion favorable for the attainment of a goal 3- a good position, chance or prospect, as for advancement or success. When we look at the world through the lens of our limitations (conditioning) we tend to limit what we would consider…
As I write this, I’m sitting alone in a comfortable hotel room in Orlando, Florida. I am attending a 4 day event called “Be the Change”. It’s a business building and networking event. I love coming to events. I get to meet people from all over the world. I get to hang out with other powerful, mission driven, heart-centered entrepreneurs, who are making great money doing what they love (or at least on their way to doing that) 🙂 I…
I am, unapologetically, a big fan of feeling “good”! (happy, contented, joyful, peaceful, calm). Having spent a good chunk of my early life depressed and feeling bad, riding the emotional roller coaster of doubt, fear, shame, judgement, criticism and comparison. I’m soooo over that! 🙂 I wouldn’t change a thing about my past. Inherent in each experience was a gift: a lesson, a healing, an opportunity. It is how we interpret a situation and respond to it that determines our…
For so many of us the idea of “giving up” anything is a negative thing. It is somehow connected with “loss”, which doesn’t usually feel good! We are hard wired (conditioned) to believe that in order to achieve we must never, ever give up! But here’s the thing, when we have been pushing full steam ahead in a direction that is not yielding the results we want – that is not aligned with our truth – “giving up” can be…
Have you ever noticed that when you decide to go after a dream, take a big leap or up level your life in some way, things get all stirred up and can feel a little chaotic or crazy? I’ve noticed a pattern in my life and those of my clients and peers: You overcome certain challenges at one stage of your personal or professional development, only to have them come up again when you up-level. It can seem as though…
