Are you too hard on yourself, constantly criticizing yourself, saying things you would never say to anyone else? Do you have a “mean voice” inside your head, telling you things like “You’re not worthy” or “You will never make it” or perhaps even “You’re so dumb.” Self-criticism can be a deadly trap that will stop you from making the changes you want to make in your life. Perhaps you had parents or a teacher that criticized you harshly with the…
The end of the year is always a time of reflection and contemplation for me. I look back (with gratitude) at ALL that happened his year – what went well and what didn’t, what happened and what didn’t, what I accomplished and what I didn’t. I think about what I want to continue doing in the coming year, and what I want to do differently. Most importantly, I decide how I want to BE. It is part of being a…
December can be a really joyful time of year, reconnecting with family and friends. Lots of celebrations and parties. It can also be an emotional and stressful time of year. For some, it’s a time of financial stress… Running around buying gifts, entertaining, traveling to visit with family and friends. For some it’s a time of emotional stress. Feeling sad, missing someone you’ve lost this year, (through death or divorce). Or the stress of feeling obligated to go places…
What does that question mean to you? To me it means: Am I playing full out? Am I invested 100%? (in whatever I am choosing to put my time, energy and money into) I recently realized I have not always been “All in”. I have spent the majority of my life operating at a fraction of my true potential – for all kinds of reasons. Mostly because I didn’t love and value myself enough, cared too much about what other…
The most important love relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. The relationship with yourself is primary. It informs and influences all the other relationships in your life: with your spouse, friends, children, career, clients, money… Here’s how it works: The world is just a great big mirror reflecting you back to yourself. Your beliefs, abundance, joys, sorrows. It makes perfect sense doesn’t it? How else can you see yourself but in a mirror? So the…
Last week I got the devastating news that a dear friend and past-client of mine had committed suicide. My initial reaction was one of anger and denial: “They better investigate this as a homicide because she would NEVER take her own life!”. The person I thought I knew so well was gregarious, joyful, outgoing and outspoken. Although she was divorced, she had an amazing support structure and loving relationships with family and friends. Her business was booming. She had 2…
Growing up I was often told I was being “too emotional”. In response to my emotional outbursts my mother would tell me, “All of life is in your mind!”, which I interpreted at the time as “get a hold of yourself and snap out of it”. Unable to understand the profound truth in that statement, I simply felt dismissed, unheard and misunderstood (as many teenagers are apt to do). But, like so much else else, her words were stored in…
Part of living beyond struggle and limitation is that you begin to have an awareness of opportunities everywhere and receive them. The dictionary defines an opportunity as: 1- an appropriate or favorable time or occasion 2- a situation or occasion favorable for the attainment of a goal 3- a good position, chance or prospect, as for advancement or success. When we look at the world through the lens of our limitations (conditioning) we tend to limit what we would consider…
I am, unapologetically, a big fan of feeling “good”! (happy, contented, joyful, peaceful, calm). Having spent a good chunk of my early life depressed and feeling bad, riding the emotional roller coaster of doubt, fear, shame, judgement, criticism and comparison. I’m soooo over that! 🙂 I wouldn’t change a thing about my past. Inherent in each experience was a gift: a lesson, a healing, an opportunity. It is how we interpret a situation and respond to it that determines our…