The darkness was upon her. She could feel the familiar heaviness creeping into her chest. Her mind becoming foggy as the weight of self doubt descended upon her. It happened in an instant. Triggered by a simple comment from a friend. Tumbling headlong into the darkness she was oblivious to the rest of the conversation. Her mind down the rabbit hole of negativity in a flash. She felt helpless to stop it. The tears begin to flow. She reaches up…
The end of the year is always a time of reflection and contemplation for me. I look back (with gratitude) at ALL that happened his year – what went well and what didn’t, what happened and what didn’t, what I accomplished and what I didn’t. I think about what I want to continue doing in the coming year, and what I want to do differently. Most importantly, I decide how I want to BE. It is part of being a…
Every time I lead a group or an individual through a deep dive intensive, I am blown away and humbled by what is possible when we let go and trust the process. Our cognitive mind always thinks it knows the best way to get where we want to go, but the truth is, its perspective is always limited by our current levels of consciousness and belief systems. If you want to get radically different results, you have to be willing…
I grew up in the 60’s and 70’s in the midst of the women’s liberation movement. Being a strong, independent woman meant I could do whatever a man could: change my own flat tire, support myself financially, be the CEO of my own business, paint my walls… I could “do it myself”. I remember feeling such pride when a male friend told me one day “Helen, you’re a better man than most men I know!”. (I cringe now when I…
A few weeks ago I was completing the intake form for my new coach. One of the questions asked: “Where are you consistently letting your clients down?”. My instinctive response was a defensive, indignant “I’m NOT!”. (Lol!) Noticing my rapid and reactive response, I took a breath and asked myself: “If you were, where would that be?”. I suddenly remembered a comment a private client had made about 6 months earlier – that she wished I had a mastermind…
“I feel so stuck!” “I know what I need to do and I’m just not doing it. I find myself procrastinating and I’m freaking out because I’ve so much to do and I’m just not taking action. I’m not making enough money in my business. I’m so disgusted with myself!” Sound familiar? I hear these statements all the time. I’ve said them myself. Then there are those times we don’t even realize that we are stuck. We are busy. Very busy….
How do you define Success? What does it look like for you? A 6 or 7 figure business? A beautiful home? High end car? Gorgeous, loving, attentive, wealthy life partner or spouse in your bed? Beautiful, healthy children? Financial and personal freedom? However you choose to define success, getting clear on what you desire is a key part of achieving it. Taking the time to get clear on what you want to achieve, then making a plan for how you…
July 2011, Dallas Texas. I’m walking aimlessly around the exhibit hall at the Ewomen Conference in tears, feeling confused and dejected…like a complete failure. I had been working with a mentor since February that year, part of a high level business coaching program, in an effort to get my coaching business off the ground. I had never invested in myself on that level before. I had never had a business coach before. It had been 5 months and…
Money is something that impacts every aspect of our lives. We all have experiences that shape our interpretation of, and relationship with, money. I call this your money story. Here’s mine: I am a descendant of the first black millionaire in the Caribbean, George Stiebel. The grand home he built in the late 1800’s still stands as a national landmark in the capital city of Kingston, Jamaica. His name is etched above the huge brick oven in what used to…
Last week I had a lot of opportunities to ‘practice what I preach’. In the past I would have said something like “wow! I had such a sh**ty week!” (This is what we coaches call a reframe) 🙂 I’ll give you a couple of examples: I was buying something in Miami airport and my credit card was declined. I know that had to be a mistake, so I said “impossible! Run it again”. (It was declined again) 🙂 I felt…
