Growing up I was often told I was being “too emotional”. In response to my emotional outbursts my mother would tell me, “All of life is in your mind!”, which I interpreted at the time as “get a hold of yourself and snap out of it”. Unable to understand the profound truth in that statement, I simply felt dismissed, unheard and misunderstood (as many teenagers are apt to do). But, like so much else else, her words were stored in…
“Procrastination is the biggest thief of time” I don’t know who said that (other than my Mother who said it to me … a lot!) 🙂 For many years I was plagued by procrastination and that saying would ring in my head like a loud (and annoying) church bell when you’re trying to sleep in on a sunday morning! It was a real problem for me, holding me back from achieving my goals and creating discomfort with myself. It was fodder…
Last week I had a lot of opportunities to ‘practice what I preach’. In the past I would have said something like “wow! I had such a sh**ty week!” (This is what we coaches call a reframe) 🙂 I’ll give you a couple of examples: I was buying something in Miami airport and my credit card was declined. I know that had to be a mistake, so I said “impossible! Run it again”. (It was declined again) 🙂 I felt…
Part of living beyond struggle and limitation is that you begin to have an awareness of opportunities everywhere and receive them. The dictionary defines an opportunity as: 1- an appropriate or favorable time or occasion 2- a situation or occasion favorable for the attainment of a goal 3- a good position, chance or prospect, as for advancement or success. When we look at the world through the lens of our limitations (conditioning) we tend to limit what we would consider…
As I write this, I’m sitting alone in a comfortable hotel room in Orlando, Florida. I am attending a 4 day event called “Be the Change”. It’s a business building and networking event. I love coming to events. I get to meet people from all over the world. I get to hang out with other powerful, mission driven, heart-centered entrepreneurs, who are making great money doing what they love (or at least on their way to doing that) 🙂 I…
I am, unapologetically, a big fan of feeling “good”! (happy, contented, joyful, peaceful, calm). Having spent a good chunk of my early life depressed and feeling bad, riding the emotional roller coaster of doubt, fear, shame, judgement, criticism and comparison. I’m soooo over that! 🙂 I wouldn’t change a thing about my past. Inherent in each experience was a gift: a lesson, a healing, an opportunity. It is how we interpret a situation and respond to it that determines our…
Have you ever noticed that when you decide to go after a dream, take a big leap or up level your life in some way, things get all stirred up and can feel a little chaotic or crazy? I’ve noticed a pattern in my life and those of my clients and peers: You overcome certain challenges at one stage of your personal or professional development, only to have them come up again when you up-level. It can seem as though…
Christmas has become a time of immense pressure for many people. We have been taught that it is a time of giving and sharing. Sometimes we give because we are conditioned to think thatʼs what “good” people do – not because we are inspired to.(Inspired – aroused, animated, or imbued with the spirit to do something as if by supernatural or divine influence) When we give from a reactive, conditioned place the essence of the Christmas season is lost. It becomes a time of stress, busyness and striving. We put on our ‘masks’ and go from one ‘costume ball’ to…
Birthing a dream – an idea, a product a service, a business – is much like giving birth to a baby: It is a process, it can be extremely painful and we don’t know exactly how long it will take. I remember my first pregnancy vividly. By the time I was in my 9th month I’d walk the hill where I lived every night, chanting with every step: “Come baby, come! Come baby, come!”. I was sick of being uncomfortable,…
I was on retreat with my mentor last week and during a laser coaching session, I asked her what she saw as my “blind spot” (this is an area of our self that we are not aware of, but is usually obvious to others). We had an agreement amongst the group that if we put ourselves in the circle and asked for laser coaching, she was going to be brutally honest. I wanted that. It’s part of the reason I…
