I had an interesting conversation with one of my clients the other day. I asked her if she had decided whether or not she was going to come to my Reconnection and Renewal Retreat in the Cayman Islands in October. She said “I’ve decided not to”. I said “Ok. Do you mind sharing with me why not? (I was curious as when I had originally started planning it she had been excited by the idea). She went on to explain…
Growing up I was often told I was being “too emotional”. In response to my emotional outbursts my mother would tell me, “All of life is in your mind!”, which I interpreted at the time as “get a hold of yourself and snap out of it”. Unable to understand the profound truth in that statement, I simply felt dismissed, unheard and misunderstood (as many teenagers are apt to do). But, like so much else else, her words were stored in…
Last week I had a lot of opportunities to ‘practice what I preach’. In the past I would have said something like “wow! I had such a sh**ty week!” (This is what we coaches call a reframe) 🙂 I’ll give you a couple of examples: I was buying something in Miami airport and my credit card was declined. I know that had to be a mistake, so I said “impossible! Run it again”. (It was declined again) 🙂 I felt…
Part of living beyond struggle and limitation is that you begin to have an awareness of opportunities everywhere and receive them. The dictionary defines an opportunity as: 1- an appropriate or favorable time or occasion 2- a situation or occasion favorable for the attainment of a goal 3- a good position, chance or prospect, as for advancement or success. When we look at the world through the lens of our limitations (conditioning) we tend to limit what we would consider…
As I write this, I’m sitting alone in a comfortable hotel room in Orlando, Florida. I am attending a 4 day event called “Be the Change”. It’s a business building and networking event. I love coming to events. I get to meet people from all over the world. I get to hang out with other powerful, mission driven, heart-centered entrepreneurs, who are making great money doing what they love (or at least on their way to doing that) 🙂 I…
I am, unapologetically, a big fan of feeling “good”! (happy, contented, joyful, peaceful, calm). Having spent a good chunk of my early life depressed and feeling bad, riding the emotional roller coaster of doubt, fear, shame, judgement, criticism and comparison. I’m soooo over that! 🙂 I wouldn’t change a thing about my past. Inherent in each experience was a gift: a lesson, a healing, an opportunity. It is how we interpret a situation and respond to it that determines our…
For so many of us the idea of “giving up” anything is a negative thing. It is somehow connected with “loss”, which doesn’t usually feel good! We are hard wired (conditioned) to believe that in order to achieve we must never, ever give up! But here’s the thing, when we have been pushing full steam ahead in a direction that is not yielding the results we want – that is not aligned with our truth – “giving up” can be…
Christmas has become a time of immense pressure for many people. We have been taught that it is a time of giving and sharing. Sometimes we give because we are conditioned to think thatʼs what “good” people do – not because we are inspired to.(Inspired – aroused, animated, or imbued with the spirit to do something as if by supernatural or divine influence) When we give from a reactive, conditioned place the essence of the Christmas season is lost. It becomes a time of stress, busyness and striving. We put on our ‘masks’ and go from one ‘costume ball’ to…
I was on retreat with my mentor last week and during a laser coaching session, I asked her what she saw as my “blind spot” (this is an area of our self that we are not aware of, but is usually obvious to others). We had an agreement amongst the group that if we put ourselves in the circle and asked for laser coaching, she was going to be brutally honest. I wanted that. It’s part of the reason I…
I was talking to a client of mine the other day. I had treated him for a shoulder pain sometime last year. He had had it for a while and had tried numerous approaches, including acupuncture and traditional physical therapy, which had not given any lasting relief. Truthfully, despite his sister urging him to come see me for months, the only reason he finally gave in and came was that it was seriously hindering his golf game!…
