Last week I got this cryptic text message from a friend: When I finally figured out it was not an email she was referring to (lol) I checked my mailbox outside and found a huge box that contained two boxes of a brand of Jamaican ginger tea (that I had enjoyed while visiting with her in Key West) and a beautiful piece of Coral that I had admired in a gift shop down by the pier as we were “doing…
Today is day #23 of a 100 day exercise commitment I’m doing. What that means is, I am choosing to move my body for a minimum 30 minutes EVERY day – whether I feel like it or not. I’m actually not doing it to lose weight or be healthier (although it will probably result in both) This is an exercise in strengthening my ability to truly COMMIT to something. Really commit. Not half ass, lying-to-myself, pretending-I’m-really-committed-but-letting-it-slide-if-it-gets-hard-or-inconvenient, or, I’ll-get-to-it-tomorrow, kind of…
It’s August 2010 and I’m walking through the exhibitors hall at the EWomen’s conference in Dallas – having an epic meltdown. I’m crying my eyes out. Feeling totally overwhelmed, lost and alone. I’m confused and struggling with self doubt and fear. I’m surrounded by all these amazing women entrepreneurs and I’ve convinced myself they are all smarter, more savvy, more accomplished than me. I have completely forgotten the amazing accomplishments in my life up till that moment. (Which included…
Sure, confidence is very sexy. No doubt about it. It’s much easier to take action when you feel confident. The problem is that many people are waiting until they feel “confident” before they take action. Big problem. If you’re waiting till you feel confident (safe, sure, bold) before you take action you’re slowing yourself down and holding yourself back. Why? Experience builds confidence. You learn as you do. You learn what you like and what you don’t. What works and what doesn’t. How to…
The darkness was upon her. She could feel the familiar heaviness creeping into her chest. Her mind becoming foggy as the weight of self doubt descended upon her. It happened in an instant. Triggered by a simple comment from a friend. Tumbling headlong into the darkness she was oblivious to the rest of the conversation. Her mind down the rabbit hole of negativity in a flash. She felt helpless to stop it. The tears begin to flow. She reaches up…
The end of the year is always a time of reflection and contemplation for me. I look back (with gratitude) at ALL that happened his year – what went well and what didn’t, what happened and what didn’t, what I accomplished and what I didn’t. I think about what I want to continue doing in the coming year, and what I want to do differently. Most importantly, I decide how I want to BE. It is part of being a…
December can be a really joyful time of year, reconnecting with family and friends. Lots of celebrations and parties. It can also be an emotional and stressful time of year. For some, it’s a time of financial stress… Running around buying gifts, entertaining, traveling to visit with family and friends. For some it’s a time of emotional stress. Feeling sad, missing someone you’ve lost this year, (through death or divorce). Or the stress of feeling obligated to go places…
It’s 60 minutes before I’m scheduled to present my talk. I’ve been calm all day. Surprisingly calm. None of the usual jitters. Which is interesting, since this is the first time I’m going to be making a paid offer to an audience at an event that is not mine. I’ve made many offers for free gifts that had people “running to the back of the room” and this is my next “stretch” – to make them an offer that requires them…
Every time I lead a group or an individual through a deep dive intensive, I am blown away and humbled by what is possible when we let go and trust the process. Our cognitive mind always thinks it knows the best way to get where we want to go, but the truth is, its perspective is always limited by our current levels of consciousness and belief systems. If you want to get radically different results, you have to be willing…
I grew up in the 60’s and 70’s in the midst of the women’s liberation movement. Being a strong, independent woman meant I could do whatever a man could: change my own flat tire, support myself financially, be the CEO of my own business, paint my walls… I could “do it myself”. I remember feeling such pride when a male friend told me one day “Helen, you’re a better man than most men I know!”. (I cringe now when I…