A client and her husband were going through a messy patch in their 30+ yr marriage. He had recently asked for a divorce, rented another place to live but had only spent two nights away from their home since doing so 3 months prior. Although she was happy he was home every night, there was no real intimacy between them and it felt as though they were stuck in purgatory, with the real issues unspoken and unresolved. She was frustrated and…
What is self care? It is caring for yourself deeply and deliberately. It is taking care of yourself by making choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of your soul. It’s about recognizing and meeting your own desires. It’s about being conscious and authentic in speaking your truth and making choices from a place of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation. Unfortunately, It is not a concept that has been modeled very well, if at…
When life gets blurry, we have to adjust our focus. Clarity is the act of refining your focus in order to determine your next steps and ensure they take you where you want to go. Clarity isn’t necessarily certainty, it’s the complete knowledge of what is in the present. Your intentions for every aspect of your life — from relationships to careers — are more profoundly molded based on just how clear you are with what YOU want! So, how…
I hosted a call on zoom last Saturday which was meant to be an informational call about our new coaching program: Project Me First. I had planned to open the call by sharing a short personal story of how I came to understand that all change begins within, and why the inner work we guide people through in the Project Me First program is important. It was an epic FAIL. At least that’s what my MIND told me. I ended…
Yesterday, I spent the entire day in bed watching movies and playing games on my iPad. I listened to a whole book in the morning (fiction). I skipped exercise class. I didn’t run my client payments that were due. I told myself. “It’s ok to take today off and rest”. “You work hard”. “Relax and take it easy”. “You deserve this!”, as I massaged the growing tension and pain in my right hip and lower back. This morning, I sat…
Last week I went to play tennis with my husband and son. We were playing “French Tennis” – 2 against 1. My husband and I on one side as a team against our athletic, super fit, 20 year old college student. I have been excited to get back on the tennis court as I used to play regularly when I was in my 30’s, but haven’t played in years. Last winter I noticed the tennis courts across from our complex…
My new book is entitled “P.A.I.N. – An Invitation to Self Love”. It contains much of the wisdom, knowledge and understanding that I’ve gained through many decades of working with people in physical and emotional pain and, the journey of healing my own. What I’ve learned is that every painful experience of our life is an opportunity. To heal, understand, grow, connect. To shift in some way, our relationship with ourselves. That physical pain? An opportunity to Pay. Attention. Inside….
Creativity is the ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, or the like, and to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods and interpretations. Let’s face it, that doesn’t readily happen in the confines of a mind conditioned by “shoulds”; “musts”; and “have to’s”. When it comes to creativity there are no rules or regulations. There is no right or wrong. The only limits that exist are the ones in your mind. The best part about creativity is the chaos…
Many people are afraid to open their heart to love. Perhaps they’ve experienced a broken heart in the past, or maybe the idea of being emotionally vulnerable makes it difficult to open their heart to love in the first place. Believe it or not, there are ways to develop the confidence you need to be open to love in all its many forms. When we face challenges in life, we can put them into perspective and see a bigger picture;…
