You’ve probably heard me talk about the ‘H’ in the SHIFT process being ‘to Honor’ – which is to acknowledge what is, without judgement. Acknowledging where you are and how you feel is a key action in the process of making a shift /change. For your GPS to guide you to where you want to go, you have to enter a starting point or give it permission to access where you are starting from. The gap you desire to bridge,…
She’s been waiting all day. They need another CT Scan to determine the cause of her difficulty breathing. It’s tiring. Waiting… Struggling to breathe…The pain and discomfort. When it’s finally her turn, she says “No. I’m too tired. Too uncomfortable. In too much pain. Take me back to my room”. “We’ll try again tomorrow”, they say. Tomorrow is a no go too. The next day they successfully accomplish their goal. And then she informs them: “No more. No more tests….
Back in September 2020, I saw an invitation to an in person retreat in Sedona, Arizona posted on a FB group of which I’m a member. Curious, I clicked on the link to the info page and my whole body lit up with a desire to go. Mind you, I only barely knew the guy who posted it. We had met briefly at an A-Fest event in Italy 3 years ago. He had left quite an impression on me though….
I spent the first 3 weeks of 2021 in Jamaica, where I was born and where my immediate family still lives. I hadn’t seen my 91 year old Mom for almost a year. My spirit said it was time to visit. In March of 2020, I took stewardship of a property that has been in my matriarchal lineage for well over 100 years. I needed to make arrangements with a caretaker for its maintenance and upkeep. My Mother was so…
What is self care? It is caring for yourself deeply and deliberately. It is taking care of yourself by making choices and decisions that honor and reflect the true nature of your soul. It’s about recognizing and meeting your own desires. It’s about being conscious and authentic in speaking your truth and making choices from a place of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation. Unfortunately, It is not a concept that has been modeled very well, if at…
One Febuary morning a few years ago I had an urge to change the decor in my office. I felt like I wanted more color in the space and the accumulated clutter was starting to annoy me. It was just a niggling thought that crossed my mind like a whisper in the wind. You know, one of those “I should really…” thoughts that don’t feel urgent so they go unaddressed. Then, towards the end of April, I was at a…
Have you ever noticed how much time and money we spend distracting ourselves? The multi-billion dollar “entertainment industry” solely exists to cater to this desire. God forbid we should feel bored, disappointed, confused, angry, sad, afraid, or overwhelmed (which is simply a cluster of unidentified emotions). In the space of ‘doing nothing’ we are confronted with our thoughts and emotions and our unwillingness to be with them. It can be downright scary to sit with or face the aspects ourselves…
“And… ACTION!” The director shouts and people start to speak, move … DO! This is what most of us think of when we hear “take action”. Doing. Being busy. We all know that nothing changes without some kind of action, but some actions don’t look like “doing” at all. Like creative thinking. Like strategic planning. There is a huge difference between the kind of action that is “busy work” (that makes you look like you are being productive) and the…
I’m here in California snuggling with my 3 month old grand daughter, Emilia. As I sink my nose into her neck, deeply inhaling that oh-so-sweet baby smell, I am deeply grateful to finally hold her in my arms. My heart is filled with joy! It was a 5 hour plane ride to get here. Traveling in the “time of Covid” is quite an adventure. Like every great adventure: It involves taking risks; opening yourself up to new experiences and possibilities,…
By Matthew Gordon-Martin Focus is a word that I’ve heard constantly since the age of 5. If you are like me and have an inner rebellious spirit, then it is the word that you’ve deviously made your enemy. If not, then its the word you’ve been playing with off and on, maybe as a friend who you engage with whenever it suits you but not a best friend who’s integrated into all aspects of your life. I was taught that focus…
I hosted a call on zoom last Saturday which was meant to be an informational call about our new coaching program: Project Me First. I had planned to open the call by sharing a short personal story of how I came to understand that all change begins within, and why the inner work we guide people through in the Project Me First program is important. It was an epic FAIL. At least that’s what my MIND told me. I ended…
A client and her husband were going through a messy patch in their 30+ yr marriage. He had recently asked for a divorce, rented another place to live but had only spent two nights away from their home since doing so 3 months prior. Although she was happy he was home every night, there was no real intimacy between them and it felt as though they were stuck in purgatory, with the real issues unspoken and unresolved. She was frustrated and…
I’m a lover. I LOVE feeling loved and I want everyone to experience LOVE. Don’t you? (for some reason my husband thinks this is a problem. Lol!). It might well be, because when I am experiencing any kind of conflict it really hurts my heart. I’ve been embroiled in a conflict with someone for the past month and it all came to a head this past week. I’m sharing the “Red Flags” and my “Insights” in the hope it will help you reflect…
The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, improved health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery. While we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are conditioned to notice what is broken, undone or…
