I hosted a call on zoom last Saturday which was meant to be an informational call about our new coaching program: Project Me First. I had planned to open the call by sharing a short personal story of how I came to understand that all change begins within, and why the inner work we guide people through in the Project Me First program is important. It was an epic FAIL. At least that’s what my MIND told me. I ended…
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” ― Lao Tzu What is “Presence”?We define presence as being fully aware of what is happening with yourself – and whoever or whatever you are interacting with – in the present moment. Having all of your attention and awareness focused on what is going on in any given moment…
“You can’t change what you can’t see”. That’s why all change begins with awareness. Awareness is consciousness and it requires presence. Being fully present expands our awareness and, the more aware you are, the more choice you have – to keep things the same (if you like it) or make a change (if you don’t). It’s actually quite challenging to be fully present in each moment. Our mind is masterful at distracting us from being fully here and now by…
Yesterday, I spent the entire day in bed watching movies and playing games on my iPad. I listened to a whole book in the morning (fiction). I skipped exercise class. I didn’t run my client payments that were due. I told myself. “It’s ok to take today off and rest”. “You work hard”. “Relax and take it easy”. “You deserve this!”, as I massaged the growing tension and pain in my right hip and lower back. This morning, I sat…
As we stand at the beginning of another year, it is tempting to get swept up in the narrative of “New Year. New You!” And all the changes you are going to “Make 2020 your best year yet!”. Truth be told, it can get overwhelming really fast when you start to try to make big changes or change too many things at once. As someone who has transformed my own life and reinvented myself many times I can certainly attest…
I was recently participating in a guided visualization exercise, led by my friend Lisa Berkovitz, intended to energize and amplify the actualization of an intention. After choosing a specific intention, Lisa took us through a quick process to connect with our higher selves. Then we imagined ourselves standing in a column of golden light with our palms cupped to receive a symbol from Source that would serve to amplify our intentions. As I looked down, a black lotus flower appeared in…
Last week I went to play tennis with my husband and son. We were playing “French Tennis” – 2 against 1. My husband and I on one side as a team against our athletic, super fit, 20 year old college student. I have been excited to get back on the tennis court as I used to play regularly when I was in my 30’s, but haven’t played in years. Last winter I noticed the tennis courts across from our complex…
My new book is entitled “P.A.I.N. – An Invitation to Self Love”. It contains much of the wisdom, knowledge and understanding that I’ve gained through many decades of working with people in physical and emotional pain and, the journey of healing my own. What I’ve learned is that every painful experience of our life is an opportunity. To heal, understand, grow, connect. To shift in some way, our relationship with ourselves. That physical pain? An opportunity to Pay. Attention. Inside….
Have you ever noticed how much time and money we spend distracting ourselves? The multi-billion dollar “entertainment industry” solely exists to cater to this desire. God forbid we should feel bored, disappointed, confused, angry, sad, afraid, or overwhelmed (which is simply a cluster of unidentified emotions). In the space of ‘doing nothing’ we are confronted with our thoughts and emotions and our unwillingness to be with them. It can be downright scary to sit with or face the aspects ourselves…
