You’ve probably heard me talk about the ‘H’ in the SHIFT process being ‘to Honor’ – which is to acknowledge what is, without judgement. Acknowledging where you are and how you feel is a key action in the process of making a shift /change. For your GPS to guide you to where you want to go, you have to enter a starting point or give it permission to access where you are starting from. The gap you desire to bridge,…
A client and her husband were going through a messy patch in their 30+ yr marriage. He had recently asked for a divorce, rented another place to live but had only spent two nights away from their home since doing so 3 months prior. Although she was happy he was home every night, there was no real intimacy between them and it felt as though they were stuck in purgatory, with the real issues unspoken and unresolved. She was frustrated and…
I spent the first 3 weeks of 2021 in Jamaica, where I was born and where my immediate family still lives. I hadn’t seen my 91 year old Mom for almost a year. My spirit said it was time to visit. In March of 2020, I took stewardship of a property that has been in my matriarchal lineage for well over 100 years. I needed to make arrangements with a caretaker for its maintenance and upkeep. My Mother was so…
I’m a lover. I LOVE feeling loved and I want everyone to experience LOVE. Don’t you? (for some reason my husband thinks this is a problem. Lol!). It might well be, because when I am experiencing any kind of conflict it really hurts my heart. I’ve been embroiled in a conflict with someone for the past month and it all came to a head this past week. I’m sharing the “Red Flags” and my “Insights” in the hope it will help you reflect…
By Matthew Gordon-Martin Focus is a word that I’ve heard constantly since the age of 5. If you are like me and have an inner rebellious spirit, then it is the word that you’ve deviously made your enemy. If not, then its the word you’ve been playing with off and on, maybe as a friend who you engage with whenever it suits you but not a best friend who’s integrated into all aspects of your life. I was taught that focus…
When life gets blurry, we have to adjust our focus. Clarity is the act of refining your focus in order to determine your next steps and ensure they take you where you want to go. Clarity isn’t necessarily certainty, it’s the complete knowledge of what is in the present. Your intentions for every aspect of your life — from relationships to careers — are more profoundly molded based on just how clear you are with what YOU want! So, how…
I hosted a call on zoom last Saturday which was meant to be an informational call about our new coaching program: Project Me First. I had planned to open the call by sharing a short personal story of how I came to understand that all change begins within, and why the inner work we guide people through in the Project Me First program is important. It was an epic FAIL. At least that’s what my MIND told me. I ended…
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” ― Lao Tzu What is “Presence”?We define presence as being fully aware of what is happening with yourself – and whoever or whatever you are interacting with – in the present moment. Having all of your attention and awareness focused on what is going on in any given moment…
“You can’t change what you can’t see”. That’s why all change begins with awareness. Awareness is consciousness and it requires presence. Being fully present expands our awareness and, the more aware you are, the more choice you have – to keep things the same (if you like it) or make a change (if you don’t). It’s actually quite challenging to be fully present in each moment. Our mind is masterful at distracting us from being fully here and now by…
