By Matthew Gordon-Martin Focus is a word that I’ve heard constantly since the age of 5. If you are like me and have an inner rebellious spirit, then it is the word that you’ve deviously made your enemy. If not, then its the word you’ve been playing with off and on, maybe as a friend who you engage with whenever it suits you but not a best friend who’s integrated into all aspects of your life. I was taught that focus…
When life gets blurry, we have to adjust our focus. Clarity is the act of refining your focus in order to determine your next steps and ensure they take you where you want to go. Clarity isn’t necessarily certainty, it’s the complete knowledge of what is in the present. Your intentions for every aspect of your life — from relationships to careers — are more profoundly molded based on just how clear you are with what YOU want! So, how…
“You can’t change what you can’t see”. That’s why all change begins with awareness. Awareness is consciousness and it requires presence. Being fully present expands our awareness and, the more aware you are, the more choice you have – to keep things the same (if you like it) or make a change (if you don’t). It’s actually quite challenging to be fully present in each moment. Our mind is masterful at distracting us from being fully here and now by…
Yesterday, I spent the entire day in bed watching movies and playing games on my iPad. I listened to a whole book in the morning (fiction). I skipped exercise class. I didn’t run my client payments that were due. I told myself. “It’s ok to take today off and rest”. “You work hard”. “Relax and take it easy”. “You deserve this!”, as I massaged the growing tension and pain in my right hip and lower back. This morning, I sat…
As we stand at the beginning of another year, it is tempting to get swept up in the narrative of “New Year. New You!” And all the changes you are going to “Make 2020 your best year yet!”. Truth be told, it can get overwhelming really fast when you start to try to make big changes or change too many things at once. As someone who has transformed my own life and reinvented myself many times I can certainly attest…
I’ve spent the last 2 weeks slowing down. Coming down off the high of yet another successful transformational event. Facilitating people finding their voices, releasing old limiting beliefs and stepping into new possibilities for themselves. Inviting them to choose from love vs fear and desire vs obligation. I came to Jamaica to visit with family and sink my energetic roots deep into the country of my birth. I realized many moons ago this is necessary for me to do at…
I love tapping! (Emotional Freedom Technique) it is one of the ‘freedom tools’ I use and teach to my clients. Here’s an example of why I love it. A few months ago, I’d been feeling increasingly frustrated at my lack of action to complete the book I’ve been writing. I was out of integrity with my commitment to myself to complete it and I was having a field day judging myself for that! Ugh! A little context might be helpful……
Have you ever noticed how much time and money we spend distracting ourselves? The multi-billion dollar “entertainment industry” solely exists to cater to this desire. God forbid we should feel bored, disappointed, confused, angry, sad, afraid, or overwhelmed (which is simply a cluster of unidentified emotions). In the space of ‘doing nothing’ we are confronted with our thoughts and emotions and our unwillingness to be with them. It can be downright scary to sit with or face the aspects ourselves…
“The formula for true success includes being consistent, courageous, clear, compassionate and focused.” ~ Helen MacMillan Compassion may be the single most important attribute for achieving success and happiness in your life. There are many research-based findings that bear this out. Here is what science has learned that backs up what we already know in our heart. Compassion makes us happy – as happy as receiving money! Jordan Grafman, Neuroscientist at the National Institute of Health found that pleasure centers…
“Let money be the sign from the universe that you are creating value for other people, not the measuring stick of your success or status in society.” ~ Tim Dennings, Author It’s so easy to get caught in a rut of trying to make as much money as possible. Don’t get me wrong – money is a fantastic resource. But when we get stuck in the trap of making money for the sake of making money it can get in…
